May 13th, 2014 | Comments (0)
once wed: vows
Long before Park & Grove, we both followed Once Wed religiously. There are so many extraordinary blogs out there, it’s honestly hard to even keep up, but Once Wed has always been one of our most favorites. What we love most about it, is that throughout the years, it has always managed to stay true to itself and it’s aesthetic (one we happen to think is pretty beautiful), and for fans like us, we know each event, photo shoot and article posted will speak to us in some way.
A few months back, we saw they were looking for a wedding planner to contribute regular “how to” articles to the site. Obviously, we jumped at the opportunity and were super honored when they selected us! Our first article, “A Guide to Writing Your Perfect Wedding Vows,” went live in April. See it here or read it below!
A Guide to Writing Your Perfect Wedding Vows
The truth is, when a bride first begins envisioning her wedding, her attention naturally shifts to thinking about how beautiful the tablescape will be, whether or not she will fall going down the aisle (which NEVER happens by the way!), and how amazing it will be to finally marry her beloved mate. It’s usually a bit further down the road that they begin contemplating their vows, which is ironic, since it’s the moment they truly become husband and wife.
Not unlike the décor or the food, the vows are an opportunity to truly represent who the couple is at their core. There are two ways to go about your vows; the first is to simply go the traditional, pre-written route. While some people might be hesitant about this, if you’re super nervous about writing or reading your vows, these vows are classics for a reason. From now until eternity, they will always be beautiful and to the point. And in some situations, like a church ceremony, the traditional route is by far the most appropriate.
For those who want to write their own, it’s a beautiful way to cap off your ceremony. When writing vows, keep in mind a couple things… First, vows are meant to be vows; they are the promises you’re making to one another, the rules that will guide your marriage, no matter where life takes you. Make sure you touch upon the love, support and respect you will always have for the other and the dedication you’ll have to your marriage. Second, if you are taking the time to write your own vows, make them personal! Does your husband tend to be the compromiser? Promise to try to meet him in the middle as best you can and when you can’t, let him know you’ll always love him for being the one who can. Third, keep in mind that you’ll be thinking back on these words thirty years down the road. Although you want them to be personal, and maybe even a bit playful, you might look back and regret if all you spoke about was your promise to support their favorite football team and share the remote when you want to watch American Idol and he wants to watch Sports Center. Most importantly, whether you’re creating new vows or using the classics, remember that the moment you read them, yours will be the absolute perfect choice.
Sarah & Marla